Comments on: 21 Things I Learned In Our First Year Of Loss

By: Beverly

Beverly — Sat, 23 Oct 2021 02:17:51 +0000

I really like reading your article. I lost my son this year he took his own life .he would of been 24 in may. I feel so lost and empty .it's been 9 months now and I've cryed every single day. He was( is)my world now I've got nothing . Just don't know what to do . Miss him so much Bradley

By: Jan

Jan — Fri, 04 Sep 2020 00:01:48 +0000

In reply to Nathalie Himmelrich.

I am coming to my first year, I’m almost to the last time we talked and last message she sent. Her suicide @ 20 yrs old has destroyed me in so many ways. I feel a lot of guilt for my other children, they lost a sister and most of their mom. I’m starting to find me again, but I am not the same, and that is sad also. To any mom who doesn’t understand be greatful and hug your children. Some days I know I’m stronger than I knew because I get up, but then other days it hits like a ton of bricks, I only got up because I didn’t have a choice. I hate this new life, and I really miss my daughter…

By: Angela Daddario

Angela Daddario — Wed, 06 May 2020 01:03:26 +0000

In reply to Mary. I lost my oldest son on March 15, 2020. I am so lost with out him. I loved reading 21 things. Thank you for sharing that.

By: Christy

Christy — Sat, 04 Jan 2020 19:50:46 +0000

I lost my granddaughter June 12 2017 one month after her 17th birthday due to Suicide. The pain I felt and still feel is a pain that I would wish for no one. I never new there could be such a heart ache.. it literally hurts!!! Then when I see my grown son cry so hard for his daughter it hurts even more !

By: Tina

Tina — Tue, 30 Jul 2019 00:02:12 +0000

I found your article on Pinterest… we lost our 19 yr old son 40 days ago. He had been ill for several years and had several major surgeries but was recovering – or so we thought. On a sunny Tuesday after work he took his own life. I found him the next morning. It’s an image I will never get out of my head. Thank you for sharing your experience … I’m just beginning to experience some of those firsts without him but truthfully everything seems bleak without him.

By: Renee

Renee — Sat, 09 Feb 2019 01:59:03 +0000

I really appreciate your article. I lost my beautiful sister in law on December 6, 2018. She battled ovarian cancer for a little over 2 years. My heart aches. Her first chemo was on my birthday and 2 years later we had our family visitation and time with Sue on my birthday. But as crazy as it sounds I felt honored to share my day with her. We’ve survived my birthday, Christmas, my brother’s birthday ( Sue is his wife) , and Sue’ Birthday in the first 2 months. Wow!! Some days are really hard. Thanks for sharing your insight with us.

By: Wendy Gill

Wendy Gill — Mon, 07 Jan 2019 21:53:57 +0000

I lost my son on Valentine’s Day 2018, the day after he turned 50. He suffered five months with cancer. I have learned everything you mentioned. It never gets better. So heartbroken.

By: Emily Graham

Emily Graham — Tue, 01 Jan 2019 20:25:21 +0000

In reply to Maria Teresa Ioannou DDS.

I’m so glad you have found some solace in reading my words… even if it’s just feeling less alone in your grief. There is a saying “No one ever told me grief feels so much like fear.” It really does! We fear life without them. We now understand the loss of control we have over that life. There is so much fear. Yet, keep watching for signs from your daughter. I truly believe they are still here with us. What is left is the love, the bond you shared. It continues. Hugs to you!

By: Maria Teresa Ioannou DDS

Maria Teresa Ioannou DDS — Thu, 27 Dec 2018 21:07:20 +0000

I am grateful to have found you. It has been 2 months and 21 days since my whole has been turned upside down. My 9 year old daughter passed away in her sleep. Completely unexpected. Reading your stories have truly helped me cope with some of these feelings. I know I have a long way to go and I truly scared of this journey but I have 3 more kids that need me.

By: Valerie

Valerie — Mon, 29 Oct 2018 01:44:49 +0000

I just read your article and it is spot on. I lost my 22 year old son 4 years ago with no known cause of death. Trying to go on and live with that has been most difficult. Your recall of the anticipation itself of those milestone holidays were more difficult for me than getting through the holiday itself. Plus I have had to deal with panic attacks that are brought on out of the blue. It could be a song, a speaker, an article, anything. Therapy has been very helpful in dealing with this. I’ve learned a lot about myself, my family, friends, and faith as I am going through this journey.