Comments on: The Advice I Wish I Got After My Son Died https://justplayinghouse.com/grief/advice-after-my-son-died Lifestyle Blog: Motherhood, Child Loss, Grief, and Thriving After Loss Fri, 05 Nov 2021 04:43:09 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.4.8 By: Kim https://justplayinghouse.com/grief/advice-after-my-son-died#comment-4030801 Fri, 05 Nov 2021 04:43:09 +0000 http://justplayinghouse.com/?p=3729#comment-4030801 In reply to Lola.

Lola,
I lost my son to fentanyl November 29th, 2020. It is the absolute worst feeling I have ever felt….I wonder how his last hours were spent…I wonder why he would take such a dangerous drug. He was a single father to my 10 yr old granddaughter and she looks just like her father. I don’t know what to do with this hole in my heart,,,I just wanted to tell you that you are not alone….My son was 29. I have one other younger son who is hurting so bad and I just can’t fix it for him….

]]> By: Margaret https://justplayinghouse.com/grief/advice-after-my-son-died#comment-4030596 Mon, 18 Oct 2021 21:31:59 +0000 http://justplayinghouse.com/?p=3729#comment-4030596 In reply to Joni Hawkins.

Hello, I lost my son on 10/12/21 to a drug overdose. I am so sad but numb at the same time. He was my only child and when I see other young men his age (29) I get angry! I know it’s wrong but I am like God why my son??? I haven’t really even talked to God because I just feel so hopeless.

]]> By: Margaret Mahan https://justplayinghouse.com/grief/advice-after-my-son-died#comment-4030551 Thu, 14 Oct 2021 15:51:21 +0000 http://justplayinghouse.com/?p=3729#comment-4030551 In reply to Faith Enger.

I hear you. You belong. We remember.

]]> By: Juliana Luafalemana https://justplayinghouse.com/grief/advice-after-my-son-died#comment-4030502 Sun, 10 Oct 2021 22:32:22 +0000 http://justplayinghouse.com/?p=3729#comment-4030502 In reply to Jennifer Browning.

I have so much to say on Justin’s behalf he is a Trojans fan and I am thinking about all the memories that I have being by his bedside when he was still here. And then I got a call from my sister when I went to the hospital that my son was at his last breathe to come NOW! I couldn’t tell you what I went through to see him like that with his inflatable stomach like that on him and the respirator over his mouth when I got there. I and knew GOD had plans for him. Well I love you son now that you know what those pearly gates look like just ENTER. I’m glad you had fun going to school when you went because you should. I will never forget how much Aunty and uncle loved you like you were their own. For me my thoughts for caring was all those birthdays I gave you when we lived at grandmas house. And those are all your cousins who were able to make . You grew up with your best cousins and I love them for you,

]]> By: Nehed Noureddine https://justplayinghouse.com/grief/advice-after-my-son-died#comment-4030464 Sat, 09 Oct 2021 13:54:50 +0000 http://justplayinghouse.com/?p=3729#comment-4030464 In reply to Emily Graham.

Hello !
My son was killed on the 20 th of March 2013 !!
That was my birthday!!His killer till today is free and living his life !! There is a warrant for his arrest but has not been convicted yet !!His court case was yesterday and the Judge Le Blanc let him out on conditions!! My son travelled to Florida to study in Disney World Orlando university!! He was 22 and was Comming home in a few weeks to Australia !! I am living the animals death sentence everyday ! I think of my son every waking hour and my eyes are forever flowing with tears like a river !!

]]> By: Chuck Donohoe https://justplayinghouse.com/grief/advice-after-my-son-died#comment-4030360 Sat, 02 Oct 2021 21:50:59 +0000 http://justplayinghouse.com/?p=3729#comment-4030360 I just lost my only son on September 4th 2021, in a fiery car crash at 26 years old. The guilt and sadness is beyond me. It just fn sucks and I don’t know how the react to it other than cry and usually at the wrong time. As they say hopefully time does heal sometimes but not now.
Forever 26 Quinn

]]> By: Dee https://justplayinghouse.com/grief/advice-after-my-son-died#comment-4030284 Sun, 26 Sep 2021 14:10:00 +0000 http://justplayinghouse.com/?p=3729#comment-4030284 In reply to Tonya.

I lost my son May 2021 he was 23

]]> By: Margaret https://justplayinghouse.com/grief/advice-after-my-son-died#comment-4030206 Sun, 19 Sep 2021 15:56:37 +0000 http://justplayinghouse.com/?p=3729#comment-4030206 I lost my 17 year old son Keith. My son burned alive in a car crash. One thing you can be thankful for is that your child didn’t have to live earth this way. I know Keith’s in heaven but I think he’d be better off with us. I have 3 other kids, two boys and a girl. My other 3 are older than my oldest son now. He died at 17 and my other 3 are from 29-33. It’s been 19 years this coming Saturday 9/25/21.
When I lost him, I couldn’t capture his personality. I was in shock. I use to tell Keith, they’d have to put me in a nut house if I ever lost him. I think he asked God to prevent me from going crazy and he blocked my mind from remembering. It’s been 19 years and I still cry about that accident, especially when I take anything out of the oven or I’m near any fire. I’ll be grieving the rest of my life. My other kids have moved out and married. I’m totally alone now. My husband cheated after we lost our son so I divorced him. I wish now that I had worked on our marriage, God hates divorce . I’m working day and night getting overtime for the night job and loving it. One day my whole family will be together again, it’ll be the happiest time ever!

]]> By: Sandy https://justplayinghouse.com/grief/advice-after-my-son-died#comment-4030096 Sat, 11 Sep 2021 20:05:50 +0000 http://justplayinghouse.com/?p=3729#comment-4030096 In reply to Kristin.

I had 2 sons. My youngest died on June 13 2021. He was 34. He lived with us. His wife and son did not live with us. My husband found him on the garage floor from an overdose. His wife had him cremated and I have his ashes. I’m not ready to have a service for him. He was my best friend. I miss everyday. I think of him first thing in the morning when I get up. I’m depressed and anxious all the time. The week after he died I heard him say “ I’m ok mom”. But I just keep saying to myself but your not here. I know I’ll see him again when I die but it’s so hard right now.

]]> By: Vicki https://justplayinghouse.com/grief/advice-after-my-son-died#comment-4030012 Sun, 05 Sep 2021 19:58:06 +0000 http://justplayinghouse.com/?p=3729#comment-4030012 Reading so much pain and only WE know OUR PAIN! I have lost my only two sons Twins, Jason died 2/4/16 then his twin brother just couldn’t take it anymore and he died 9/11/19. Both of my sons died in my home and I found them both. I relive those moments every minute of every day. All of my friends and even family have disappeared from my life as if I had something to do with their deaths. All I have is my husband who is the boys step dad. The boys biological father also died in my home as he had cancer and he had no one to help him so I let him move in as well as my sons to give their Dad support. Jason died before his Dad died from an overdose then Jerry the boys father died 4/4/18. Jared was just not doing well and started running with the wrong group of friends . I begged and pleaded for Jared not to put me thru this after already losing Jason but he just wouldn’t listen. He was out of control!! Then my nightmare came true again when I found him downstairs where the boys had their rooms set up and where his brother died there laid Jared dead at 10:30pm. I had just heard his voice 30 mins prior and had no clue what was about to happen. Was it on purpose or was it by accident I will never know. But finding 3 dead Bodies in my home from 2016 -2019, I thought for sure I would be next. I am serving a life sentence in my home. I don’t leave my house for anything unless it’s for a doctor’s appt. My husband does the grocery shopping, cooking. Our home is a wreck. I have no energy to even clean. Mountains of laundry,, over 100 loads I know that needs to be done and I just dont care. My husband just never had the knack for housework as I did it all up until my 1st son died then I just stopped living. I don’t know that I will ever be right again and I dont want to be on a bunch of meds where I dont know up from down. Yes I am very depressed but no pills will bring my sons back. I work from home and retire at the end of this month. This is suppose to be my happy time, looking forward to becoming a grandma. And I have nothing to look forward to other than what is on TV. or just Sleeping all day. I don’t eat and have no desire for anything. I want a friend so bad that I could just hug and talk to but I have no one. My husband just doesn’t understand my pain, loss and emptiness in my heart. I have lost my whole world. My heart goes out to all of you who are suffering in such unimaginable pain that no one can understand unless they have shared the same loss.

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