Comments on: Bereaved Mothers: The Concept of Strength

By: Sylvia

Sylvia — Thu, 01 Apr 2021 21:08:39 +0000

It’s been 6 years since I lost my son and I wanted to join him for at least the first couple of years. I now have that wall that helps me be happy sometimes and I don’t care what people think. Especially when they have never felt that pain

By: Michelle

Michelle — Wed, 31 Mar 2021 14:43:13 +0000

It’s been 2 months since we lost our beautiful 18 year old daughter in a car crash. It’s tough getting though the day.
People keep saying how strong and brave we are – we’re not we’re just surviving. We don’t know what else to do.

By: Rachael

Rachael — Wed, 31 Mar 2021 04:19:10 +0000

It’s 89 days since my beautiful 21 year old son left us…… I miss him terribly, yet I “appear” strong as I have to! I still have to work, good still needs to be cooked and unfortunately life still goes on around me

By: Wilma Duncan

Wilma Duncan — Mon, 29 Mar 2021 16:26:40 +0000

Maybe we hide the pain from others to protect them. They can’t see the inside of us. I pass many people on the street and we cannot tell what they are going through unless they open up to us.

By: Sonia Oates

Sonia Oates — Mon, 29 Mar 2021 14:32:46 +0000

I too have learned to built that wall it’s my reassurance that I can’t be hurt like that again, I lost my son Ben in May 2019 he was 28. It’s my grandchildren that keep me going especially his 8 year old daughter. We don’t ever get over loosing our children, it shouldn’t have happened and will never let him be forgotten.

By: Polly vickery

Polly vickery — Mon, 29 Mar 2021 12:01:17 +0000

Thankyou for putting this so well. I lost my husband and ten month old son in car accident coming up to 4 years ago. I heard so many time – I don’t know how you do it, your strong… I couldn’t even get out of bed….

It felt like I was being judged all the time. I know they didn’t mean it. X

By: Krista

Krista — Sun, 05 May 2019 18:54:58 +0000

It has been one year and a few days since we lost our daughter and THIS is how I feel every time someone says I’m so strong. I’m sure they don’t mean it to be hurtful but I can’t process it at all. You have summed it up so well… it’s almost like people would rather sit with your strength than with your brokenness…

By: Emily Graham

Emily Graham — Tue, 28 Feb 2017 04:23:59 +0000

In reply to Joyce. I understand your pain! So many times I have felt as if I was just existing and going through the motions. It makes total sense that you would want to be where he is (I think that all the time). It's easy to say "he wouldn't want you to just exist, he would want you to live". There is a ton of truth to it, but it's not that easy. You need to do what you feel is right for you. Only you know what that is. I don't ever believe the pain goes away after the trauma of losing your child. You just learn to live with it as best you can. Sending lots of love your way. XO

By: Joyce

Joyce — Tue, 28 Feb 2017 02:07:58 +0000

It’s been 16 months sence I lost my only child, my son Andre he had just turned 27. I’m existing, I’m alive but not living, just going thorough the motions of life, I honestly don’t care about anything just want to be where my son is, he was my purpose in life! I know I’m not the only mother going through this kind of pain, but that fact doesn’t lesson it any.