Comments on: 7 Right Ways To Support A Griever

By: Lydia

Lydia — Tue, 09 Feb 2021 04:26:25 +0000

My son was victim of gun violence I miss him so much he was a loving hard working courteous person but his downfall was his addiction to meth and alcohol it has been so hard to come to terms with his death I failed him as a mother I couldn’t help him I’m at a loss

By: Edith

Edith — Tue, 20 Oct 2020 16:11:37 +0000

Emily, Thank you for being a safe place for people to go to when they need to share their grief. You feel and respond with your heart to others because you have been there…my sympathies in your loss. You are special because you can share back instead of hiding. I go for walks and sit on a log in the bush and have a little cry to cleanse my soul for another while. I volunteered with hospice/palliative care for 17 1/2 years and listening is the greatest gift that I could give. I work now mainly with seniors and listening is never a bad avenue to take. Reminiscing is a great healer and comforter. God Bless You!

By: Sam

Sam — Thu, 08 Oct 2020 23:42:10 +0000

One of my really good friends just lost his daughter in a terrible car accident. I was friends with her and I know their whole family, so this is so helpful in trying to help to support them. Thank you.

By: Tracy

Tracy — Sun, 01 Dec 2019 03:22:31 +0000

This means so much to me. My 32 year old daughter passed away unexpectedly 5 days after she got married. It’s been a year since her death and the pain is still so real. She was on top of the world. My heart is so broken and I have changed so much since her passing. Just reading that I am normal to be feeing what I feel give me a little comfort. Thank you.

By: Gail

Gail — Fri, 23 Aug 2019 19:10:01 +0000

I lost my soulmate on March 19,2019,after an illness.My Husband died & a part of me died with him.I miss him every second;We were married 30 years last November 11,2018.Hardly anyone understands how I feel unless they've lost there husband.There are times when its hard to put one foot in front of the other & get my day going.Im getting by but it hurts soo much.Praying for some comfort.Thanks for listening, Blessings to all who have lost a loved one.

By: Sheila

Sheila — Wed, 22 May 2019 14:04:36 +0000

My brother hanged himself in 1989 and five years later my twin died of AIDS alone. He didn’t let me know he was dying because my mom was an alcoholic and he feared she would blame me of not telling her. She did anyway. My father had Alzheimer’s and his doctor wanted me to get guardianship to place him safely due to mom’s alcoholism. It started a major court case and my remaining siblings disappeared and left me holding the bag. We don’t speak asa result but sadly whatever their story is has turned my nieces and nephews away. I am a mental health counselor for over 15 years and when I sit with people that share their grief and loss they know I am present to them in an authentic way.

By: Bella

Bella — Fri, 03 May 2019 19:40:01 +0000

My step-son of 10 years died a month ago. He was 29. It was and is a terrible shock. I am grieving but not like my husband. He is understandably having a really hard time. The activity of it all has ended and he now feels the incredible sadness and hole in his heart. I grieve differently then him. And his son was not my natural child. I want desperately to support him and love him through this knowing it will be the rest of our lives. I’m fine with that. What I am struggling with is my husband’s need to have me “walk his path” in other words, give up my work and responsibilities to be side by side with him throughout his day. He drives a truck and wants me there for support, etc. Am I being selfish in my need to continue my life as best as I can all the while being his “rock”?

By: Amy

Amy — Wed, 23 Jan 2019 18:31:17 +0000

Thank you! I lost my husband to Acute Myleoid Leukemia in June. We have a little girl (who we shouldn’t even have – I was told I couldn’t have kids – and surprise – found myself pregnant at 41 – she is my greatest blessing) who just turned 4. So I am working through the loss of my soulmate and holder of my heart as well as trying to be a good mom and helping my sweet girl grieve for her daddy. Thank you so much for sharing this. I needed to see it today. Much love and many prayers to you on your grief journey!

By: Traci

Traci — Fri, 18 Jan 2019 05:55:43 +0000

Thank you! My best friend died on my birthday a year ago. She was not just my best friend of 25 yrs. We met when i was 23 yrs old. We did everything together. Always there for the other one. Helped each other as single mothers, shared a car when the other didnt have one,held and supported through heart breaks and helped pick each other up and put back the pieces as we aged and life would knock us down! Kiki was the smart, beautiful and logical one! We balanced out the other!!where one of us stopped the other began, day and night to be honest.
She had cancer, they gave her 6 months when diagnosed. But in true Kiki fashion she fought forv2 1/2 yrs. She was tired and in more pain than they could control. Lost and scared most of the time.i would get these phone calls at odd hours of the night. And usually she was crying. I grew to expect these monumental phone calls. Id get up and we would talk until she was calm again and comfortable enough for her to go to sleep.
I got a call on monday evening Dec.11- “if you are coming to see mom aunt Trae, you better hurry!” I threw a bag in the car and hit the highway….7 hrs later i walked into a hospital room and my heart broke!! ( as i type this out i cant stop the tears still) there lied a shell of my vibrant bestie! I knew the end of her battle was here!
She held my hand and laughed and talked and cried for the next 3 days… the early hours of my fourth day with her, i watched as she passed on and left us behind. That Dec. 15 was my 48th birthday and my heart just shattered.
Since that day my entire life has changed! I can’t let go….i feel so lost most of the time! I knew death and grief. But never in a million years have i experienced something so shattering.sorry to go on and on … i still have never talked about it to anyone. I would talk about her or share my memories out loud. I dont know why i feel like they are mine and i don’t want to share them! They are all I have! And i know this is wrong.. but i can’t. She would be so upset, she smiled right up to her passing and we always had more than than two girls should of had, and laugh until our faces and sides would ache! And I used to be so out going. But since the day she died i am someone i don’t even know anymore. Anyway Thank you saying its ok. I know I’m getting better just not very fast.

By: Robyn

Robyn — Fri, 12 Oct 2018 00:20:54 +0000

I read somewhere that we don’t ever get over it but that we will get thru.