I agree so much with this. It’s been 9 months since I saw my beautiful brown eyed 11 year old girl. I miss her so much it hurts to breathe. These days I’m numb , I never knew numb was a stage of grief. How is this my life? I just find myself saying over and over I don’t want to do this anymore.

Rebecca,

I cried. It is 6:21 in Houston.TX now. I miss taking my 10 year-old Victor to school.
This was sudden, tragic (He was run over riding his bike on our residential street), and I can’t forget the moment were told that hopes were low, he was brain dead. Low or non existent? I wish we had survived, in any way, I would have taken care of him until my last day, but I didn’t want him to leave. I wanted to trade places 🙁 to give him life and I couldn’t. It happened exactly 3 months ago, and I can’t still believe it. I haven’t been able to walk in his room.
When I got to the corner where it happened he had been already taken to the hospital. It was September 1st, and we came back home on September 7th without him. We donated 5 organs. His heart is beating inside a 5 year old girl. This is tremendous, this is extreme, I feel my heart breaking everyday.
How long since your son is not with you?
I understand what you feel although each person has a different grief, but we share the pain and sorrow. I wish we never had to know about all this!

Did you join grief groups, had therapies, medication?
On Friday I will have my 4 therapy. No medication. Whole Foods drops anxiety soother and tea. I do not know how I will really be strong enough to live but I have to. We have our daughter, almost 3 who stills talks about Victor. They were very close, she says his name as she plays and she also looks for him everywhere and the few times we have been to other places, she says he is coming back, she wants to safe him, she says she is sad because of her brother. I
I will preserve memories as much as I can. I need to be more open to talk about him but now it has been hard, I need to make an album with photos soon. Her birthday is coming on December 12, 2020 and my heart is not with any celebration but I want Ella to know that she is loved and important. We might take her to a beautiful place and invite few girls to cut the cake and then come home as now I just want to be home.

Thank you for reading.
Luisa.

Joey,

I wish we were not here talking about this, but I pray for peace and comfort everyday. I also cry daily.
Victor was 10 but I felt secure with him. As you I feel I have lost a very good friend, my inspiration and first love.
He got hit by a car on our residential street and got brain dead.. From September 1st to the 7th, 2020 our lives have changed and got filled with sadness and confusion. He should be here, he was doing the same routine he often did, riding his bike. He was amazing as a human being, unusual one of his teachers called him once based on his high sense of respect and responsibility.

How old was Sarah. Age and ways of departing do not matter but I am just notice I did not see the age.

I want to know how you are doing.
Did you and/or your wife went to therapy?
What has worked for you to “walk through” life without her physical presence?
They prescribed medication that I am not wanting to take “yet”, instead I bought some anxiety soother drops at Whole Foods similar to Valerian roots. But it is too soon to know if they really work.

I send you a hug to you and your wife.

Luisa.

Hello Melissa,

My heart understands yours. Receive my hug.
Our first born and genius boy Victor was hit by a car on September 1st, 2020. On September 7th we turned around to let him donate his organs. We was brain dead. I wish something could have been done to save him but BD left no hope.

I can’t handle the pain most days. I can’t see his pictures and memories from Facebook without crying. I can’t still believe that this is true. It was shocking, traumatic, tragic, sudden that I could not believe that he was at the hospital back then. He was healthy, he was obedient and respectful, he was crossing the residential street coming back to our house from the end of our street, and almost on the other side when the driver did not see not see him, the driver only used the brakes after hitting him, our child, my first love, my best friend. We have a daughter, she will be 3 this moth. It is hard for her, as she misses him A LOT. She talks about him and tries to find him. She says she can save him, she will “catch” him.
Víctor and I were so close 🙁 since he was little I played the cartoons I watch as a child and then some shows. He watches them until he was big 🙁 how can I watch those shows again. His room is closed I can’t walk in there.

We are seeking justice. The car/driver that caused this is still in the neighborhood. Victor Stanley deserves honor, we love him so much and have been crying daily since day 1. So in our case it is not about medical answers but the desperation and the why, and the shock is terrible.
Last night the neighbors shared something that showed on their camera recently. It shows a shadow of what seems our child running towards our house as their teenage child was parking his car in the driveway.
It felt surreal, I never saw anything like this on a camera, it is so clear. They believe it was his spirit. I want to believe it too since the shape looks like my son. As I cried last night I pray too asking God to give us peace. I see signs and they are meaningful and precise that I want to really believe that our loved ones can communicate in this way because it can’t be coincidence.

The last I love you of that day minutes before the event. His hazel eyes 🙁 are still in my mind. This is a nightmare. Tell me please Melissa how have you gotten by.

I send you a hug of understanding and love.
Luisa.

I am very sorry for your life I pray for u to live a long life and just know that your son will always be by your side