Comments on: Our Story Of Loss (Continued) – Guest Post From My Husband

By: Emily Graham

Emily Graham — Sun, 28 Feb 2021 02:14:00 +0000

In reply to Coco. The reason for no nasal spray is because the active ingredient is what caused my son's porphyria attack. Certain medications are triggers for this rare blood disease and cause your blood to not properly create red blood cells and carry oxygen through the body. So, while nasal spray IS a normal thing to use and have in your medicine cabinet... for my son it turned out to be the thing that initiated his issues that night.

By: Coco

Coco — Sat, 28 Nov 2020 09:29:15 +0000

As everyone is who reads these blogs my heart is so heavy for you and your family. Although I know it has been some time.. years since Cameron’s passing I know that the pain is there... fresh as ever. I want to ask if I may.. you say you never would have used nasal spray , even if told to by a doctor. May I ask why? I’m just curious, it seems to me such a normal thing to have in your home medicine chest. I’ve used it so many times myself and in my children. (Never again). But I just wonder .. why did you feel that way about nasal spray? I know you do know that you are not responsible for your child’s early passing and I know you know any guilt you may feel is not fairly placed. You are a loving and caring parent, a father who would have certainly changed places with his son if given the chance. I thank you for sharing your story and especially your own post. Nasal spray is not something I would have ever thought twice about. But it’s not just nasal spray is it. I realize I give my children far too much medication. Trust in doctors, pharmacy’s and pharmaceutical companies... and their own little bodies to be strong enough to handle these ingredients I know nothing about or how they could be affected by heredity or just anything going on inside my child’s small body at any time. I will think twice from now on before giving any kind of medication to my children. Sharing your story I’m sure will unknowingly save a child’s life one day. God bless you!! I will pray for you. I noticed that no where in yours or your wife’s stories was God mentioned. I know that losing a child can leave you questioning faith or a God that could let this happen. However, I urge you if you have not already please look to God for peace. Be brave in your fear and reach to God.. lead your family to find solace in his word. He will put his arms around you and show you true love and peace. He already has.. perhaps you just have not had the time to really notice. Anyway he is there, He loves you all and He is waiting for you to ask him to carry you. God bless you all ... I will pray for you. I will pray for Cameron and your wife and daughters. I found your blog tonight while looking for prayer about losing a child. My nephew passed today. I wanted to send a prayer or a poem to his momma. Anyway, I came upon your page and felt urged to share God with you. I hope in some tiny small way I could help you as you have helped me tonight.

By: Abigail Lance

Abigail Lance — Sat, 07 Nov 2020 13:14:42 +0000

In reply to lisa.

My son just passed away but it was from suicide this July. Your story makes me feel connected to other families. A lot of my child’s issues were genetic and also pharmaceutical so really we are in the same boat and my child was fine a few hours and days before and then gone.
My heart breaks for us. I still have 3 other teens. I love my family and my children but I am empty. Mediums already helped me. But when events are over I just miss my child.
I understand the guilt of the nose spray. A long time ago my son wanted to quit smoking and my
Best friend in the healthcare field suggested I tell him to try chantix. Well I told him! He got it and only took a few days and I wonder if that was the start of the end. Only God knows. At least our kids are peaceful and not in pain and will meet us when we cross over. Thank you for sharing. It helps me not to feel so alone.

By: Margaret

Margaret — Sat, 09 Feb 2019 17:30:24 +0000

I have no words.
I just want to thank you, your blog helped me today.

By: Patricia

Patricia — Fri, 07 Sep 2018 09:42:42 +0000

I’m so sorry for your loss and that comes from the bottom of my heart. Words cannot explain what it feels like to be a bereaved parent. I know you blame yourselves but it wasn’t your fault. I also lost my daughter,she was 36 years old ,3 days before her 37th birthday. I lost her on 11/30/2017. I still blame myself for not realizing that she was septic. She died from septic shock right in front of my eyes in the emergency room. I relive that night everyday. I’m also a RN so I feel really stupid for not seeing the signs and symptoms of sepsis. I pray for you and your family.

By: karon strahan

karon strahan — Thu, 30 Aug 2018 07:40:39 +0000

how beautiful that he chose you to live out his little life with. he knew you would love him with your whole hearts. maybe before we come here we agree with God as to who will parent is, the lessons we learn, and teach… you are amazing, remarkable and heroes in my eyes. the fact you shared this is a gift from all of you, as you have no idea how you have touched so many. thank you and God bless.

By: diana

diana — Thu, 26 Jul 2018 14:06:02 +0000

Not your fault, never. I’m sure that from wherever he is he loves you so, so much! And he is proud. Hopefully He made friends and they watch over all of us. *Hugs.*

By: Emily Graham

Emily Graham — Mon, 05 Feb 2018 22:41:48 +0000

In reply to Brooks @ Our Parent Place. Thank you!

By: Brooks @ Our Parent Place

Brooks @ Our Parent Place — Tue, 30 Jan 2018 04:46:47 +0000

My heart broke when I read that last line. It is in no way your fault, which of course you probably know on a logical level. I hope things have been getting better since this was written and I hope you’ve learned not to blame yourself ? your story is so heart breaking. I’m glad you found answers. I’m sure it doesn’t make anything easier, but hopefully it provided a tiny bit of closure.

By: Samantha

Samantha — Thu, 25 Jan 2018 20:37:25 +0000

My heart breaks for your family. What an unthinkable loss.
I know my comment won’t change how you feel but I need to echo the many comments before me that this is of no fault of your own. As parents, we do the best we can and we can’t do better than that.
Thank you for sharing so transparently. I hate that you have to hurt like this.