Comments on: 11 Crazy Things I Do As A Bereaved Mother

By: Laredo Driessen

Laredo Driessen — Tue, 26 Oct 2021 15:52:53 +0000

I miscarried my son, and I went and bought the hats and security blanket/stuffed sloth I PLANNED on buying him when I was “nesting” haha, I now carry one hat with my in my purse and sleep with the security blanket every night, it’s my own way of still having him

By: Donna

Donna — Sun, 19 Sep 2021 01:41:25 +0000

I lost my son on August 6 , 2019. The first year i was alone, no one came to see me…i would walk my and say ” Danny was sick and there was nothing I could do!!!” It kept me a little sane… Forward, to 2021, I am a little better and most of my waking thoughts are about him…i keep it to myself as others don’t understand how losing a child changes you. My son was 45 and he lived with me almost all of his life… But I am so grateful for all the years I had him.

By: dr abida

dr abida — Sun, 05 Sep 2021 13:04:37 +0000

my daughter12y left us june 2019.i thought i cnt survive without her.but i m living .not like before.life was so beautiful with her.i have truely lost myself.i sit with her grave and asl one thing why she went so soon.when i close my eyes i see her face .she s worried too fr me.wipes my tears and says ididnt leave u.i m here with u all time.
this thing keeps me strong

By: Sherilynne

Sherilynne — Wed, 04 Aug 2021 19:48:35 +0000

I understand exactly why you do all these things. I talk to my son daily, who was 24 when he died from an auto accident a few days before Thanksgiving, 2020. I also sit in his room and play a game of cards that we like to play. (I even keep score) He gave me a heart necklace his last Christmas, and I kiss it when I’m feeling down. Guess I’m a little crazy – miss him so much!

By: Sherlyn

Sherlyn — Fri, 02 Jul 2021 18:18:50 +0000

I lost my 24 year old son in a car accident right before Thanksgiving last year. I’m always talking to him and asking for him to send me signs. We were very close and it’s been hard to keep moving for his brother who is two years younger, was his best friend, and is also grieving. I guess I’ve gone a little crazy – when home alone, I go into my angel’s room and play a game of cards with him that our family plays. I even keep score! And, I don’t “let” him win like I did when he was younger. He always wore a baseball cap and every morning and night I kiss his hat like I did when he was still here.

By: Trina Dobson

Trina Dobson — Tue, 18 May 2021 13:34:58 +0000

My heart goes out to everyone here, your comments are all, sadly, very relatable. My son Rhys was killed in a hit and run in 2019, he was 19 years old, he was my only child. The driver was high on drugs and left the scene. Luckily, he’s been found guilty but he maintained his innocence for 2 years, dragging us through hell and prolonging our agony. I’ve seen my son at home, not fully, more of a slight outline of him, in my hallway and moving into the kitchen. The dog even noticed it and was looking at him. I quite often talk to him in my head and out loud if I’m alone. I’ve kept his bedroom window shut so the smell of him doesn’t escape. I also hug his urn and touch his ashes so I can still feel him physically here. I’m obsessed with anything Japanese as Rhys wanted to visit that country and was learning the language. I hope to visit some day and to leave some of his ashes there. Shopping is hard for me as I see so many things that I think Rhys would’ve liked. If I see anyone who looks like him, I have to fight the overwhelming urge to hug them! I so desperately want to be with my son again, death is something to look forward to now. Not that I would end my life but I wouldn’t care if I died today. Mentally and physically I’m exhausted. I think I’ve aged 30 years. The sadness I feel now he’s no longer here is overwhelming on times, he was my favourite person in the world! Love to you all

By: MonicaRodriguez

MonicaRodriguez — Wed, 10 Mar 2021 18:44:15 +0000

I lost my 20 year old on 8-14-19. He battled coloncancer for 3 years. Cancer sucks. I’m so lost without him. I am so sorry to read all these stories. This overwhelming feeling of sadness and having to continue to live without our kids is so hard.

By: Trim Wells

Trim Wells — Sun, 17 Jan 2021 05:46:15 +0000

I’m also a greiving mother ,we lost our son may 9 th, 2019, it was so fast an very unexpected, I feel like my heart just aches everyday,he left four wonderful Children, I try to be strong for them , it’s certainly a pain you can’t explain, an so many just don’t understand unless they’ve been through it.i pray he is with all of us everyday, I have two other grown children that are just wonderful at supporting me , I wish I could be stronger ,I’m not good at writing words ,I’m so glad I found this site..

By: Carol Mcpherson

Carol Mcpherson — Wed, 06 Jan 2021 03:34:28 +0000

In reply to Julie Worthing. I paid to keep my son's cell phone activated for 3 years. I would call just to hear him. I recorded his message and finally stopped paying the bill.

By: Lisa

Lisa — Tue, 05 Jan 2021 11:16:45 +0000

I'm so very sorry for all the loss on this page. I'm crying over everyone's comments. We lost our precious boy in June of 2013. He had a heart defect he had 3 open heart surgeries 1st one at only 11 days old. Then 2 more before the age of 2. These surgeries weren't gonna save his life they were just giving us time. I don't think we understood that at the time. But we had 18 great years with him and are so very grateful we had that much time. He was a great kid! Sweet, loving, kind. Everything I would want in a man. That was my boy. I have done most things on the list and other "weird" things. I go through all his cards from the funeral and see the things people said about him. I go through his phone and remember all his friends texting that we had to tell he had passed away. It hurts so much to do so but it's like I can't help myself. I've smelled pickles ( anyone who really knew him knew how much he LOVED pickles. He passed in our old home & when we moved I was worried he wouldn't know where we went. Well one day after the move I was having a bad day lots of crying & such then out of the blue I smelled pickles. That's when I knew he came with me. I 've had several pickle incidents and countless others. I doesn't happen as often now. Maybe he knows I don't need him like I did at the beginning. I was as lost as anyone here still am but as time goes on I do believe our grief softens some? At least it has for me. I never thought I would say that.. But that being said I still cry in the mornings & he is still always on my mind. Someone said they don't fear death now I get that. We have had our biggest fear come to light. There's not much that scares me now. Take care I hope for peace & calm for all you .