Comments on: Everyone Arguing Over What’s Harder 2 or 3 Kids…They Are All Wrong!

By: Kathy

Kathy — Thu, 24 Jun 2021 16:46:23 +0000

In reply to Carol. Carol, my son passed away in August, 2020 from pancreatic cancer. He was 43 and my first born. My other children are 38 and 40. Your words resonated with me. I remember that when I had my third who is now 38, my house felt so much different going from 2 to 3 children. Now, going from 3 to 2 even though they are adults, some of that joyous energy is gone. Thank you for sharing. You helped me feel connected today.

By: Kathy

Kathy — Sun, 30 May 2021 11:26:48 +0000

I went from 3 to 2 in August, 2020 when my 43 year old son passed away from pancreatic cancer. Of course I’m grateful for my 2 surviving children and my 3 grandchildren. But there is someone who was so special and so alive and energetic and funny and wonderful who is missing from our lives. Thank you for this blog, Emily, and thank you to those who share. I helps so much to know I’m not alone in my grief.

By: Barbara

Barbara — Tue, 26 Jan 2021 00:25:35 +0000

I lost my 38 year old son on November 30th, 2020 very suddenly from an aortic aneurysm. He died while visiting my husband and I. We tried giving him CPR but he was already gone. There were no signs of illness. We are all in shock and in so much pain. He leaves a wife and 5 children and his one sister. I have so many days of darkness that I don’t know how to go on with my life. He was a wonderful son, brother, husband and a great dad. Reading your blog makes me feel not so alone with my grief. You know what it feels like to lose a child. You get it.

By: Olga Sarmiento

Olga Sarmiento — Sun, 10 Jan 2021 19:32:31 +0000

I just lost my Baby, from 3 to 2, my Little Kaitlyn 16 months old, 29 weeks ago, it Still feel unreal, I just found your blog, and as Im Redding it, is like you gave words to my emotions, still raw this pain and still dificult to me to understan this new path in my life.

By: Kristin

Kristin — Tue, 15 Dec 2020 20:51:16 +0000

You are the best. I went from 2 to 3 in a very similar way to your son’s death. Your blog is so therapeutic for me.

By: Michele Benyo

Michele Benyo — Wed, 15 Apr 2020 23:47:07 +0000

Just found your blog that says so much of what I have felt since my 6-year-old son died 20 years ago leaving behind his 3-year-old sister. When her beloved brother and best friend died she said to me, “Mommy, half of me is gone.” I’d have to say the worst is going from 2 to 1. She grew up a sibling without her sibling, living next door to a family of four siblings close to the same age. It has been heartbreaking every inch of the way and will forever be. It’s made her who she is and has given both of us bittersweet gifts. Still I will always miss who she was for the first three years of her life when she had her big brother who adored her and who she adored. The hole is unfillable, the loss irreconcilable, as you know.

By: Melanie

Melanie — Tue, 04 Feb 2020 21:38:23 +0000

I am a mother of 4 two girls and one son on earth. I lost my son at 14 to cancer on 2/20/04. Derek would have been 30 1/30/20 hard to believe he’s not here. I am a single mom. People say it get “easier” when?? I too had to make that devastating decision to end life. I feel so guilty not having my other three say goodbye, they were getting ready for school I told my mom let them go onto school, he should be home today from the hospital. He never left with me. I do appreciate someone else that’s going through what I’m going through and understands.

By: Carol

Carol — Fri, 14 Dec 2018 15:13:27 +0000

My oldest son Alex is forever 20 after jumping into heaven off the cliffs on the river where we live. It happened on July 15, 2013. These days I’ve been feeling the sting of going to two children here on earth verses my three. It seems more pronounced to me. I liked the chaos and energy of all my kids, with two it seems manageable which feels wrong. Thanks for your post, it resonated with me.

By: Saal

Saal — Wed, 12 Dec 2018 20:02:41 +0000

I went from 5 to 3

By: Jami

Jami — Sun, 18 Nov 2018 18:11:06 +0000

I have 4 daughters 3 here on earth and 1 now In heaven. My oldest is married and the 2 youngest are struggling well we all are struggling. Since I’m the mom I’m supposed to put us back together. How?!?! My youngest was so carefree before and now she is angry, mean with her words toward me and she isolates herself in her room. I have tried counseling with her, just the two of us outings and I ask her about things she used to enjoy and she gets mad at me for asking and says she doesn’t like those things. I’m not sure how to fix our family or if it can be….