Comments on: Talking To Children About Death – My Experience

By: Julie

Julie — Mon, 06 Jan 2020 02:08:30 +0000

My 27 year old son just passed away two days before Christmas (2019). Having to explain this to his 3 & 6 year old sons was devastating. I have lost both of my children and thankfully, their father (my son) always took them to the cemetery to visit their uncle (his brother) so they have some understanding, however the 3 y/o asked me today if I could keep a piece of his daddy’s favorite candy until he “comes back”…..

By: Emily Graham

Emily Graham — Fri, 15 Dec 2017 02:56:59 +0000

In reply to Katherine snyder. I am going to look for that book. I love anything that can generate conversation around the topic. It's so important to be completely honest and I often worry that I may not support them in the way they need. Thanks for your recommendation. Much love as you move into your second year without your daughter. We are just wrapping up our 2nd year.

By: Katherine snyder

Katherine snyder — Fri, 15 Dec 2017 02:52:55 +0000

We knew a few months beforehand that our six year old daughter would probably not love much longer. We started a kind of grief preparation plan with our other kids (8,6, and 2). On of the best things that we found, besides being completely honest like you said, was the book “the invisible string”. We’re coming up on the one year mark of her death and they’ve started caring the book around again. Its given them a lot of comfort. I’m so sorry your son passed. It sounds like you and he had a very special relationship.

By: Emily Graham

Emily Graham — Mon, 23 Oct 2017 00:38:05 +0000

In reply to eDIE. My heart breaks for you both! It's great that you are keeping her memory alive and letting him be involved. I am such a supporter of not shielding kids from death. It's good that you are talking to him and answering his questions. My constant worry for my kids is they will forget him or I'm not supporting them enough as they grieve (and re-grieve throughout their lives). Much love to you!!

By: eDIE

eDIE — Sun, 22 Oct 2017 18:52:12 +0000

I have had conversations with my grandson in recent months. His mother (my daughter) died when he was just two years old. He’s six now and he at an age where he’s beginning to have questions. I have kept it simple but have always answered any question he has. We have talks about death and what happens when you die. He goes with me to his mother’s grave to switch out flowers and he gets to pick out anything he want to decorate her grave. It isn’t an easy conversation but I believe it helps us both.

By: Shannon

Shannon — Mon, 22 May 2017 20:41:06 +0000

I absolutely cannot imagine having to have that version of the conversation. I’ve talked about it with my three-year-old son because his great-grandmother is in very poor health. He’s met her a number of times, so I want him to know what’s going on when she eventually passes. Similarly to you, I just went with the very straight-forward, honest approach. I actually wrote it about it on my blog: http://welleatyouupweloveyouso.com/2017/04/13/the-death-conversation-with-a-three-year-old

By: Emily Graham

Emily Graham — Sat, 20 Feb 2016 14:46:52 +0000

In reply to Diane. Thanks, Diane.

By: Diane

Diane — Fri, 19 Feb 2016 01:24:54 +0000

I agree…..Emily, you have an amazing way of putting your feelings on paper…..

By: Emily Graham

Emily Graham — Thu, 18 Feb 2016 20:53:33 +0000

In reply to jason. Thanks for reading and taking time to comment! Glad you enjoyed it.

By: jason

jason — Thu, 18 Feb 2016 20:44:30 +0000

Emily you are such a gifted writer!! 🙂