Comments on: My Favorite Color Is Blue. Sometimes. (Grief Book Review)

By: Lacey

Lacey — Wed, 27 Jun 2018 03:10:44 +0000

I’m so grateful I found your blog. I lost my 7 year old stepson earlier this month. I hate that anyone else has ever had to feel this way, but it does make me feel like I’m not alone. It’s been shock for the last few weeks, but reality sets in little by little. My son is 4, and is missing his brother like crazy. I didn’t think my heart could break anymore until I’ve watched him struggling as he begins to understand more and more. I will get him this book, and look forward to more of your posts. I’m sure it’s not easy to put your feelings out there, but right now it means the world to me to see this.

By: Emily Graham

Emily Graham — Thu, 11 Jan 2018 14:10:48 +0000

In reply to forgotten griever.

This grief journey is a lonely, solo journey…even if you have a ton of people around you or trying to help. That’s just the nature of grief and loss. I always say it’s just between me and my son…like yours is between you and your sister. It’s about the personal relationship you had with her. As for the signs, I completely understand your comment “it’s just a grieving mother seeing what she wants to see”. That is completely natural and unless someone has experienced it they may not understand it. That’s OK. You are already on a spiritual journey. Trying to decide what you even believe happens when we die. Are they still there? Can they communicate? Is there anything there? I am confident there is and my son is still here. I love that you are opening up to the idea. My husband struggled with this as well. It’s taken 2 years and he is just now starting to see those “coincidences” and questioning. You’re right…who cares if they are coincidences if it allows you to feel closer to her and continue your relationship with her. Much love on your journey!

By: forgotten griever

forgotten griever — Thu, 11 Jan 2018 13:39:00 +0000

I have been reading through your blog for most of the afternoon, constantly close to tears. I lost my only sister a few months ago due to a car crash. Your articles about the forgotten grievers especially resonated with me, as such a loss wreaks havoc on even the happiest of family dynamics and I constantly feel so alone in this journey.
I’ll be honest with you – when I read about the signs your son sent you I often thought this is just a grieving mother seeing what she wants to see. (Sorry) But a big part of me craves such interaction from my sister so much that I half-halfheartedly asked her for my “purple elephant”. The next blog entry I opened was this one. I’m a designer and artist and it just grabbed my attention. When I opened the link to the book I noticed with shock the date next to the name:
My Favorite Color is Blue. Sometimes.: A Journey Through Loss with Art and Color Paperback – November 7, 2017 – THE DAY SHE DIED! I’m not sure whether that was the publishing date but can it really be a coincidence?
“When I think of you I see yellow” – the color of the flowers at her funeral because she was the sunshine in so many people’s lives.
I will be ordering a copy for myself and her baby girl, who will unfortunately (probably) not even remember her wonderful mommy.
Thank you for opening me up to these signs. And maybe they are just coincidence? So what? If it makes me feel closer to her why not?
Thank you for your raw honesty and not trying to give advise because there is none – just sharing your feelings and making us all realize that what we are feeling is normal is invaluable to so many people, I’m sure.
LOVE & LIGHT