Drowning in a sea of overwhelming grief is not where I expected to find gratitude. Yet there it was attempting to throw me a life line. I would have grasped at anything regardless of how out of place it seemed. Gratitude in grief? That is just crazy nonsense! When you lose a child, there is no way to explain the feeling … Read More
The Advice I Wish I Got After My Son Died
When my son died, I received a lot of advice. I found people do not know what to say. They default to the things they have been conditioned to say during these times. It came from many different sources, most of which had never lost a child. The advice came from good intentions, but it was hollow. Not at all … Read More
Share Your Story Of Grief And Loss – Let’s Change The World
Early on people asked, “Why share your story so openly?” The response was always the same. It was cathartic to write it. There is a lot of healing power in sharing. It didn’t take long before I recognized the healing power wasn’t just for me, but for many other moms out there just like me. When you get hit by the … Read More
The Best Grief Definition Is From A Griever
What is grief? According to Webster, the grief definition is “a deep sorrow, especially caused by someone’s death to which a bond or affection was formed”. Grieving is to suffer grief. How can a word so full of emotion be so cold and unfeeling? Webster apparently never lost anyone. I remember standing beside his bed holding his little hand. My body in a … Read More
Bereaved Mothers: The Concept of Strength
There is a quote that says, “The bereaved mother. She has experienced the unimaginable and yet she is still able to walk.” When I see it, I question the definition of strength. There is this notion that because we can get out of bed every day, we are strong. The ability to do the necessities life has demanded means we … Read More
How To Find A Medium Or Psychic Medium
I have had so many people ask me how to find a medium. They have either heard me talk about my experience or read my blog post about using medium readings to heal grief. Their first question is always, “How did you find a medium?” Most people have thought about it, but they have no idea where to start. I like … Read More
Grief And Loss – What Should Year 2 Look Like?
The first year of grief and loss is typically thought to be the hardest. You learn how to breathe again. You learn how to compartmentalize your life and manage (even mask) your grief. Survival through each milestone, creating a new normal, and learning how to keep going takes all of your energy and focus. So when we hit the first … Read More
When Life Has you Feeling Overwhelmed
Life has a way of leaving you feeling overwhelmed. Things are going along like normal (new normal anyway) and bam! Out of nowhere it hits you. How did this happen? I think it happened when I walked away from the second mess of the day. I say I think because I really can’t remember. My ability to focus on things … Read More
6 Things I’ve Learned About Sibling Grief
There aren’t many resources that exist related to sibling grief. This fact has caused me to begin my own research. Who better to ask than those that have experienced this heartbreak first hand. The forgotten grievers themselves. While each has had their own journey, many themes stand out. I am a big believer in the statement, “You don’t know what … Read More
What Is Better than Flowers? Food For Sick & Bereavement Gifts
Bereavement gifts are never an easy thing. People automatically default to flowers. While the flowers were beautiful, I have to say during the loss of our child, food by far made the biggest impact to our days. It was the most helpful thing we received. We ended up with a freezer stocked full of meals. There was no prep work … Read More