Momfession. Confessions about the way you do motherhood. The things you typically don’t share for fear of being judged. Things that if we did share, and didn’t judge each other for, could have the power to create beautifully bonding moments between mothers.

One of my closest friendships was founded on this principle. We like to say my son, Cameron, brought us together. I had seen Ruthie quite often at school drop off last year. Her family had recently moved to town and one of her daughter’s was in Cameron’s class. Aside from a casual hello, we really didn’t have much contact. It wasn’t until his memorial that we even had our first real conversation.

She showed up with all 4 kids in tow, her youngest was only a couple of weeks old. They were all wearing their superhero shirts! It was our first official introduction. I remember her telling me the sweetest story about why they came. Her daughter had made friends with Cameron in her first week at the school. His was one of the names she remembered and talked about, and that never happened! It stood out to Ruthie and she knew they needed to be there to pay their respects.

Anyone that overheard the rest of our conversation would have likely been shocked. She wasn’t telling me how sorry she was. She never tripped over her words or seemed nervous to be talking to me about my dead son. It was refreshing and I loved her for it. Her momfession? She didn’t find it easy to make friends. Being new in town and having her husband deployed was tough. Then she apologized because she said while it seemed so inappropriate from a timing standpoint, she wanted to invite me to meet her for donuts and coffee our first day back to school. She knew it would be a tough day for me and offered a distraction. The beginning of our friendship.

The Momfession Challenge

Ruthie blogs over at Mama’s Gonna Lose It. The other day she wrote this amazing post all about the momfession! If you haven’t read it, you should check it out: Sunday’s and Facebook.

Her post really inspired me. One of the reasons I have continued blogging and sharing our story is to help shine a light on child loss and the grieving process. I have been seeking ways to share my reality but without everything being sad or depressing. The momfession is how I plan to make that happen.

My challenge to all of you is to do the same. Share more of your real journey through motherhood. Your momfessions. Imagine the bonding power. Motherhood can be a dark and lonely place. The more we share, the more opportunity to support each other and feel less alone in our journeys.

Do you have the guts to share your momfessions?