We are all guilty. Showing the world only what we want them to see. Sending the message that we have it all together, that life is perfect.
Let’s be real. Parenting is hard. It’s certainly the hardest thing I’ve ever done! Regardless, I fall victim to feeling the pressure of doing it “the right way”. Following the protocols set forth by society. Let’s see, you have to breastfeed your baby. The only acceptable form of discipline is a time out. Oh and don’t forget to limit their screen time.
Yep, I’m a failure on all fronts!
Social media is our best friend. It helps perfect the art of perfection. Spin happens. Post this picture because I look thin. Update this status because everyone will think I’m fun. Add photos of my perfect family having perfect days. I get to show people what I want them to see.
What I’ve found is this keeps me from connecting with people on a deeper level. Sharing the reality and bonding over the imperfections. There is a fear they will look down on me for my decisions. Maybe they don’t share the same struggles. Worse yet that I will be viewed as a bad parent. In my mind I know it’s ridiculous, but I still want to be viewed in the best possible light.
It’s time for a new beginning. Instead of fearing the criticism, I’m challenging myself to stop caring. It’s hard! It goes against every fiber of my being, but it is necessary. Push me out of my comfort zone and really let people in. Imperfection is the new perfection.
I challenge you to do the same. Do it without shame. Do it without judging the other moms trying to project their own perfection. Instead, let’s be real. Imperfect = I’m Perfect.